Looking for a completely countercultural path to marriage? In biblical dating, Scripture guides us as to how to find a mate and marry, and the. Before you get too attached to that guy or gal you're dating, take heed of Dr. Linda Mintle's advice. A.J. Kiesling - Read about Christian dating and get advice, help and It's ironic that in our culture we prepare for everything but marriage.
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Are you spending time with God? Do you depend on Him to meet your needs of love and security? You can resist temptation if you put on the whole armor of God Eph.
In fact, usually the opposite is true. It feels incredibly good to give in to passion. But, the authority of Christ needs to take precedence over your physical drives. Society tells you to give in to the moment. Christ tells you to be obedient to His word. Physical touch should be in the context of a meaningful relationship, not reduced to satisfaction of personal need. Both partners should take responsibility for setting limits. Mutual boundary keeping reflects maturity. What is your motivation -- power and control, gratifying your own ego, meeting a selfish need, or genuine affection?
If the social, emotional, spiritual dimensions are missing or lacking, you are out of balance. You should respect and honor each other. Love is the fruit of the Spirit. Wait on the Lord. See it as an opportunity to serve God. But so is marrying a sleezeball. When you date, allow the community of people around to speak into your relationship.
Your feelings can deceive you. I know too many men and women who refused to listen to people around them, and their prideful arrogance resulted in a failed marriage. Find men and women you trust, and allow them to speak into your relationship. Pursue a pure mind. In the process, I filled my heart and mind with lust, and I secretly struggled with pornography.
Christians, instead, need to teach the importance of a pure mind. But the sacrifice is worth the prize. A pure mind might be the greatest gift you can give your future spouse. It allows you to jump into marriage with a clear conscience. Just you, your spouse, and God. You have not made covenant vows to one another.
So, the person you are dating is not yours. Dating and marriage are not for those who rely on another person for joy, peace, and purpose. Co-dependent dating leads to co-dependent marriages. And co-dependent marriages eventually crumble because the weight on them is too heavy.
Make sure God is the center of your life before you start dating. Dating towards marriage will take a back seat. In fact, every principle discussed in this article is null and void without God at the center. I believe these principles could transform lives. What principles are important for Christian dating. Leave a comment below.