Mar 5, Mar 5, Black women reply the most, yet get by far the fewest replies. So the game is rigged--on OKcupid you have many white men who have no interest in dating black women, but very few black men with no interest. Mar 6, Who knew the single lives of Black women would be making national headlines in early ? Coincidentally, Karyn Langhorne Folan's new. She was a 40 year old black woman with a Ph.D., ready to find a mate in a city that is only 5% black. complaints (especially about high-achieving black men dating and marrying interracially). . Linda R. Young, Ph.D. All rights reserved.
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But depressingly, men of all races write back to African-American women at markedly lower rates.? The men who approach you think you must be desperate and therefore a sure thing.
Race and Romance: An Uneven Playing Field for Black Women
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We chatted for about 20 minutes, discussing grammar, hay fever and egg sandwiches. It was easy, uncomplicated and fun. Optimistic, I signed off. Then came the other IM conversations and emails.
Several have asked me: Not a single black male professional has ever contacted me. In one case, a guy in his first email asked me to do a threesome. The men who approach you think you must be desperate and therefore a sure thing.
Alice had received an IM alert from a would-be suitor. His irresistible opening gambit? Perhaps, but offensive nonetheless. A report for OkCupid by OkTrends last October, found that black women members were more likely than any other ethnicity and gender group to reply to a first-contact message.
In fact, their response rate was one and a half times the average. Inversely, they were the least likely group to get a response back — from any ethnicity. I wonder what the findings for women overall would be on OkCupid. Kay Barry March 3, 8: If so, then if most of the site's users are white men, and the white men on the site don't prefer black women, then wouldn't it follow that the responses would be lower for black women?
I think statistics should be compiled at ethnic sites such as BlackPeopleMeet. A black woman would be guaranteed to get a percent response because men of all races would use the site to find her. Actually, the blog post did a great service. A black woman now knows not to waste her money on OKCupid when the response rate is so low.
She should spend her money where she is welcome and is sure to find someone to date. I think that the tone of the blog post implies that black women are discriminated against because of the low response rate from white men. This is simply not true. When did acceptance by white men on one dating site become a measure of racial bias? The low response rate could be for reasons such as fewer black women are into online dating and may be using other ways to meet someone online.
Also, the rate of interracial dating between black women and white men is lower than that of black men and white or Asian women, so that could account for lower response rates too. Then again, there may only be 20 black women subscribers on the site. March 3, 8: Maybe in additon to your work on race add a chart about response rate by body weight or self-professed body description , or occupation type, or age bracket, or income, or education -- anything to give me something else to look at other than simple race.
There are so many things at play with answering a message on a dating site other than simply race. To have an article which only examines race exclusively is to immediately lead the discussion toward a certain set of pre-fabricated assumptions which may or may not be useful. We readers will never know though because you've only shown us one facet that you seem to believe is the most important This was passed around the blogosphere back in October!! The unfortunately reality is that in the genetic lottery black females came out uglier on average than the females of other races.
Like with any trait however, race is not a cause but a marker. Being black is a sign that a woman is more likely to be ugly, it doesn't cause her to be ugly. The problem is the physical appearance, not the race. James March 3, 8: Your hypothesis that reply-to rates are inversely proportional to receive rates doesn't hold up, though. Native American women reply to more men than do other groups of women, but they suffer no penalty when they are the initial sender. I'm guessing people who sign up for the match service get a list of "hits" who they then message.
Let's say Margaret gets the names of 20 guys and she messages all the white guys because she thinks they have desirable traits for a spouse. Maybe she didn't message some of the minority men because she wants to start with men she thinks are the best opportunity. Now the white guys are getting a lot more approaches than some of the minority guys.
The white guys say "my mailbox is full I'm going to respond to half So, people who are perceived from limited data to be good matches get more responses and so respond to a smaller percentage. Then you have the other end. I'm responding to everyone but this creepy message.
I'm wondering about the cache of the Middle Eastern Women. The response level to their messages is very high, which I find surprising.
The perception is that ME women are set on marriage and make attentive, old-fashioned wives, which a marrying man would find attractive. They are also perceived as famously chaste, which a dating man may not want. How do they get such a strong,steady stream of responses. Annie March 3, 8: So white guys don't date black women? It's a buyer's market out there and white males have their pick of the litter. Nobody wants to date asian males.
Be original for once and go do a story about that. MikeM March 3, 8: I'd like to hear Mr. Ayres articulate exactly why these data are "depressing" but womens' preference for men with hair, or mens' preference for younger women, are taken in stride. I'm sure it would be great if people didn't judge each other on their looks or other superficial markers, but do we really need to be depressed by a reminder that this is and always will be the reality of things? It would be interesting to find the reasons for the preferences.
The prospects for a Black female to find a committed partner appear pretty grim. Not sure if this is due to cultural-driven personality traits or just prejudice, in this case by males. The stereotype does seem to sugest that Black women are high maintenance, meaning pretty demanding on their male partner, so often overlooked.
The plight of black women grows grimmer by the day. I thought this posting would address the well-known fact that women achieve higher levels of education than men, and the disparity between black women and black men is especially great. Given that both race and educational attainment are traditional markers for marriage compatibility, educated black women are doubly disadvantaged.
Add to this the fact that black men marry white women at much greater rates than white men marry black women, and you've compounded the problem.